It is a well-known fact that financial problems are a leading cause of divorce. According to studies published in the Journal of Political Economy, couples that experience any significant and unexpected change in income—positive or negative—are at risk of divorce. Furthermore, there is evidence that couples’ financial problems are linked to increased levels of stress, conflict, and decreased levels of marital satisfaction.
With so many families struggling financially as unemployment rates continue to rise, it’s ironic that less people are calling it quits. According to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, 37 percent of the divorce attorneys polled reported that they’ve see a drop in cases during the recession. Divorce can be incredibly expensive, which could be why more and more couples are finding ways to work out their problems.
If the economy is taking a toll on your marriage, consider a separation. A little time and space could do wonders for your relationship. While it may be hard for people involved in an emotionally-draining separation to clearly think about their money, it is absolutely imperative.
Pull a copy of your credit report. You will want to review entries carefully and either close all joint accounts or change them to individual accounts.
Alert your secured lenders. Make sure your lenders know about your marital status and instruct them not to allow any changes without your permission. You may also want to “freeze” joint bank accounts or divide any funds into two individual bank accounts.
Develop a plan to pay down debt. If the relationship ends in divorce, your divorce decree is an agreement between you and your spouse (not your creditors) on how your debts and assets will be divided. Paying down debt now will help to eliminate some of the burden of having a big debt load after a divorce.
Be realistic about the future. Create a financial plan for each potential outcome. Consider hiring a trusted financial advisor for help; be certain to ask about your advisor’s experience with divorce and marriage separations.
Because a marriage separation can be a very complex process, consider marriage counseling. A marriage counselor can help you see another side to marriage, resolve differences and help to open the lines of communication. Marriage counseling can help you rebuild your relationship or help you decide if divorce is the best option. Either way, you owe it to yourself and your marriage to try every possible solution.